Hi Rosemary, I love your use of the word "undertow" to describe the back and forth between being maybe ok, and falling into deep despair. I too have those stretches when I realize I haven't cried in a long time, and then grief roars in, stronger than ever. I felt that undertow this Christmas season, powerless against the force sweeping me down to the depths.
I love how your loving connection with your daughter is revealed in that phone call.
Lovely writing. I'm sure you will find that there is a beautiful community of supportive and understanding readers and writers here.
Thank you Tina! I appreciate your thoughtful words. I think these releases that come in those moments of despair are necessary. I know sometimes it makes people sad to know that I’ve gone through this, but it’s quite healthy. I need to remind myself of that when I go through it. It’s letting air out of the tire. I’m sorry for your loss as well.
And yes, I am enjoying the community here very much!
Profound grief takes the time it takes, and you’re wise to recognise it isn’t something that magically disappears…there are just longer lulls as we go on. I’m glad you are your daughter are able to share these moments, that loving connection is something to treasure, amidst the deep sadness of your loss. Rachel O Riordan is a widow who writes really well on here about losing her husband, I recommend her…link below
Thank you. Yes, I was surprised that she was having the same reaction so far away. It just shows how energy travels. I know our connection grew after he died. I’m grateful for the closeness.
Hi Rosemary, I love your use of the word "undertow" to describe the back and forth between being maybe ok, and falling into deep despair. I too have those stretches when I realize I haven't cried in a long time, and then grief roars in, stronger than ever. I felt that undertow this Christmas season, powerless against the force sweeping me down to the depths.
I love how your loving connection with your daughter is revealed in that phone call.
Lovely writing. I'm sure you will find that there is a beautiful community of supportive and understanding readers and writers here.
Thank you Tina! I appreciate your thoughtful words. I think these releases that come in those moments of despair are necessary. I know sometimes it makes people sad to know that I’ve gone through this, but it’s quite healthy. I need to remind myself of that when I go through it. It’s letting air out of the tire. I’m sorry for your loss as well.
And yes, I am enjoying the community here very much!
Profound grief takes the time it takes, and you’re wise to recognise it isn’t something that magically disappears…there are just longer lulls as we go on. I’m glad you are your daughter are able to share these moments, that loving connection is something to treasure, amidst the deep sadness of your loss. Rachel O Riordan is a widow who writes really well on here about losing her husband, I recommend her…link below
https://substack.com/@saltwaterrachel?r=4eyhnh&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=profile&shareImageVariant=blur
Thank you Esther. I am very grateful to be able to have conversations about loss with my daughter. We are both learning as we go along.
I will definitely check out Rachel. Thank you for the recommendation.
It sounds like you and your daughter are deeply connected. Or he visited you both that day! I’m so sorry you went through this. ❤️
Thank you. Yes, I was surprised that she was having the same reaction so far away. It just shows how energy travels. I know our connection grew after he died. I’m grateful for the closeness.